Question: How can I deal with the fact that I'm ageing and the past is over?

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Answer #1:

I'm 17, all of the best times were in the past, I know. Everything was so simple back then and I don't half miss it. But what's the point in dwelling on the past I ask myself.. those days are gone, and it's just part of life. Be glad that you're 18 now, ready to start life, ready to partaaay hard ;D

Answer #2:

Listen - I just want to take you and the person who answered above me and shake the ever loving crap out of you. Are you kidding? LISTEN to yourselves! You have your whole danged life ahead of you! Quit whining and welcome to the real world, where life is what you make of it.

Answer #3:

Don't think of adulthood as a looming end, but a new chapter with many new beginnings.

Don't think of adulthood as giving up on your childhood dreams, but having the freedoms to realize them to their fullest potential!

Not all great artists were child prodigies, and I promise if you work hard, you'll realize how truly talented you really are. Artistic ability goes along with creativity, and it isn't something that just goes away. But it IS something you can build up, and get better at.

Believe in yourself, and no matter what mountains challenge you, you'll make it to the top.

Answer #4:

You're 18, dude.
It's never too late to do anything. So much of your life is still ahead of you.

You're still so young. You don't need to be at any kind of quota when you're 18. Most people haven't put in half the amount of effort that you have to get ahead in life.

And that child within you never goes away. Never, unless you want it to.
You have years upon years ahead of you to forge new and fantastic memories.

Answer #5:

why is 18 too old to play piano??? that's ridiculous! you can do ALL the things you want and more.

you need a healthier view of adulthood. it would help you to befriend some older people. beFRIEND, not necessarily sleep with.

i'm 32 and you are freekin' depressin' me with that talk. if you're old and crusty at 18, what am i? what is my 45 year old partner? lol. calm down.

and, excuse me first poster, i don't know where you grew up, but the under 17 years were not the best days ever... yeah, getting the shit beat out of you for being queer? teenage awkwardness? you can keep it.

Answer #6:

geez, you're 18!!! you sound like a person in a mid-life crisis. 18 years old means your life is just beginning CHILL OUT!! you can still go to college-- if your high school GPA is really that bad just take GED and you'll be fine.

If you weren't so crazy about practicing then perhaps piano/ getting into music professionally is not your thing (I am a violinist and have been taking the instrument religiously since I was 10-- let me tell you, i wouldn't want music for a profession).

take a deep breath and make a list of things to look forward to. There's a LOT; it's really not that hard to make that list.

Answer #7:

Dang, you are blue. You are never too old to learn anything, it may just not come as easily as it did when you were rowing up. You now see that whatever you want to do will take practice and that is that, you say you cry about it so you know it was possible. You just have to stick wiith something. I am trying not to laugh about the no body will love me thing, age has nothing to do with that, it may be your attitude, but not age.

Answer #8:

you aren't too old to do anything, you're still a kid really. I'm not saying that to be patronising, I'm 19 and I'm still a kid.

Everything you have done in the past has made you what you are now. If you don't like what you have become and don't feel it reflects your true self, change what you are doing. We all create our own lives.. our own realities. if you don't like what you have created, create something else.

Don't give up... you can be whatever you want to be if you want it enough

Answer #9:

18 - became a legal adult

20- YES!!! You're in college/work for the first time

25- you're looking young, and you're way stronger then teens ... they can not take you on ... in hockey! lol

30- You've got experience under your belt, and now you begin to find a lover

35- Your wedding day! Happiest time EVER!

40- Feel older, but so what? You've finally got time to go on a great holiday ... with your soul-mate as well! Couldn't do that when you were 20!

50- Begin to settle down

60+ - Look back on your life ... and smile at all the memories- no regrets.


What I'm saying is ... is that you have plenty more life a head of you. Cheer up! :)

Answer #10:

Why are you being fatalistic, gloom and doom? Sheesh!

I'm in my 40s and I've never been happier and more fulfilled in my entire life. It doesn't get worse, my friend -- it gets better!

Benjamin Franklin did his greatest work when he was in his retirement years by our standards.

Just drop the negative thoughts. Ask for God or the Universe or your Higher Self to fill you with Light, Confidence and Joy.

Don't call yourself names, Sweetheart. Be positive about what you *can* do. If you really *yearn* to take more piano, then just do it. If you really *want* to take art classes, do it.

I suspect people in your life have filled you with nonsense and told you that you are no good, worthless, bad, lazy, etc. But none of that is true.

You are a spark of brilliant light, my friend. Please relax, breathe deeply, and let yourself shine!

Drop the worry and fear. Begin to live.

And by the way, I'm sure you are quite fresh, lol. No worries, dude. You will be plenty attractive for years to come.

Don't bury yourself in self-hate, fear and fatalism. Take off those graveclothes and live, my friend. Let yourself be happy and enjoy the world!

Feel free to email me. Hugs!

Answer #11:

the past is over.... but the good news is that the future hasn't happened yet...!

Answer #12:

This pity party is the worst I've ever seen.

Good lord - people learn to play the piano - WELL - into their 30's and older. A man got his college degree at the university I worked for at the age of 93.

And SOME people think 18 yo's are at their best. Frankly, I don't, and most of the people I know don't, either. 25 - 30 is the height of attractiveness for me.

And I"m way older than that. So why do I keep on going? Because I enjoy life. And life is not about your talent, or your cuteness, or your hair, or any of the rest of this BS.

Invest some time in living. It has a much better return than investing in dying.





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